One of the things she is known for is handing out the Litany of Trust
prayer, written by one of the Sisters of Life. It’s about humble trust
in God, and she doesn’t have to hand out those beautiful words, because
her life has been a glorious song, an ode to her Creator in love for the
life she has been given as a gift from God.
The last time I worked with her professionally, when she was working
for the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops on pro-life issues, she was
working on end-of-life issues. She was a compassionate advocate against
doctor-assisted suicide and for palliative care and other merciful
alternatives to assisted suicide.
Deirdre introduced me to a woman named Maggie Karner. She had watched
her father deteriorate at the end of his life. She reflected later, as
she faced her own terminal diagnosis: “He taught me how to live and die
with faith and with dignity marked by patience and grace. He taught me
that dignity can’t be diminished by pain or loss of personal control.
Regardless of our circumstances and whether people acknowledge it,
nothing and no one can take away our God-given dignity.”
She was brutally honest about her own illness: “I am certain my God
hears my cries, which are sometimes angry, sometimes frustrated and
sometimes exhausted. I know this because Jesus also cried out to his
Father in pain and showed me that God can handle our questions, our
fears, and our uncertainties.”
In 2014, at the death of another icon of courage and faith in the
face of a terminal diagnosis, J.J. Hanson, she and her colleague, Greg Schleppenbach,
wrote announcing his death: “Given only four months to get his affairs
in order when first diagnosed in 2014, he sought a second opinion with a
medical team that was willing to fight for his treatment. Sadly, his
cancer returned late in 2017, and he passed away peacefully at home,
surrounded by his family after receiving hospice care.”
Now Deirdre is in this same position. And every moment, excruciating
as it can be with pain and the sure knowledge that life is at its end
for family and friends, has dignity. She has dignity. Playing God in
ending life prematurely is not worthy of the gift of life God gives us.
It closes us off to unexpected graces only God can give in the
purifying, humbling, even humiliating moment of our lives, when we are
most vulnerable.
I can’t really pretend to know what Deirdre would say if she could
say some last words of teaching about what she has learned about her
suffering — though I expect those closest to her will share before too
long. But she would be delighted if we all got to know the late Sister
Thea Bowman, who Deirdre has had as a close friend and intercessor in
her cancer battle. She, too, had cancer. And she said something that
Deirdre has embodied: “I believe that there are kinds of healing. People
are praying for healing for me. I want to be healed. I don’t know what
that means in God’s infinite plan, but it’s not problematic for me. If
it means to heal the body, thank you, God. If it means to heal the
spirit, thank you, God. And I know the healing is already happening.” (Read more.)