From Elizabeth Stone at Of Home and Motherhood:
In today’s world, the female body
is often treated as an object, something we can all judge, a commodity for
consumption. But the truth is God designed it for something much different. The
woman’s body speaks a language written into creation itself. Its capacity to
receive, to nurture, and to bring forth life reveals the character of divine
love: creative, generous, and ordered toward communion. To receive life
requires openness, not just of the body, but of the heart and the will. And
openness always involves risk. It means allowing another to enter the most
personal space. It demands trust. This is why, for a woman, sexual intimacy can
never be detached from the moral and relational context that gives it meaning.
It is not merely an act of pleasure; it is an act of faith, a giving of self
that presumes mutual fidelity and care. When that trust is betrayed, through
lust, manipulation, or indifference, the damage is vast, because the very
design of our bodies show how it was made for covenant, not transaction. The
body and soul are left bearing the weight of something sacred that was treated
as casual. The tragedy of modern sexual culture is that it demands the fruits
of feminine openness, pleasure, beauty, intimacy, without the structure that
protects it: covenant, commitment, marriage, and trust.
This is what modern sexual ethics
fail to grasp. A culture organized around “consent” assumes that if two people
agree, the act is good. But human beings aren’t built for legal minimalism. Sex
involves attachment systems, hormonal bonding, moral meaning, and literal God
ordained design. Reducing it to permission has stripped it of the structure
that made it intelligible. The result is the gray zone now haunting both sexes.
Was it wrong? Was it assault? Was it just bad judgment? The categories blur
because the moral framework is gone. Consent tells us what’s allowed; covenant
told us what’s good. And unfortunately nowadays, they are both speaking very
different languages.
When sex belonged to marriage,
the questions of trust, stability, and safety were already built into the act.
The relationship carried the structure that the body requires. Once sex was
detached from covenant, every encounter became a private negotiation. The
culture of sex-based consent has been disastrous for both men and women. For
women, it’s produced chronic confusion and emotional fragmentation, the body
giving itself in contexts it was never meant to. For men, it’s fostered
paranoia and moral apathy. A covenantal view of sex — one bound to fidelity
and permanence — resolved those contradictions. It gave desire a structure, and
intimacy a home. Without that, consent becomes the last word in a language that
no longer makes sense. (Read more.)
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