Wednesday, January 24, 2007

Good Manners are Good Business

I believe that manners are a concrete way of showing Love, and are to be used because God commands that we love our neighbor, for to do so gives Him glory. However, on the most basic mercenary level, it makes for more success in business to have some social skills. You would think that people would want to be polite if just for that reason. Share


Anonymous said...

The article makes some very good points. I think this epidemic of rudeness in business (and in life) is, in some ways, a reflection of our instant gratification/"penny wise, pound foolish" culture. Why bother being nice to somebody unless they're in a position to "do something" for you? (And, of course, people who have been stepped on are more likely to manifest the same behavior, so the cycle continues.) The irony, of course, is that it takes just as much time to be rude and nasty as it does to be polite and kind.

I type these words while reflecting on a job interview I recently had where the principals never bothered to get back to me -- at all! (And I assure you that I bathed before the interview, too.) It leaves a bad taste.

elena maria vidal said...

I agree,Lylia, it sometimes takes less energy to be kind, and a concerted effort to be nasty.

Yes, it is rude and annoying when people do not respond to one's inquiries. I have had that experience, too, I guess we all have. I have experienced it with some mainstream Catholic bloggers, not ever responding to a personal email; it tells me they do not see me as 'important' enough to merit a response. It is true, I am not important, but you would think that in charity they would respond to everyone, even not so famous people. That said, one or two of the most prominent Catholic bloggers have responded very politely to my emails - which is very classy of them.

Anonymous said...

You are more important that you realize, my dear! The other day on, no less a luminary than Peter Kurth himself said that he hoped you would join us there, and what a fascinating and delightful woman you are. (Your name had come up in connection with RealAnastasia's comparison of AA and Marie-Therese.)

I am always amazed and intrigued by how people can let us down/move us to tears with their kindness. And it's very unpredictable, isn't it?

elena maria vidal said...

Oh,Lylia, that moves me to tears. I will have to join that forum. How kind of Peter! Peter Kurth got me through graduate school(his research, that is. I did my master's thesis on the Romanovs.)

Victoria said...

I would love to read your thesis sometime!

I love Peter and he's now a very regular member of It's been such a great experience being on that forum -- I assure you that there is none of the unpleasantness we have encountered elsewhere. That he spoke so highly of you is indeed a wonderful compliment.

elena maria vidal said...

Thanks, Vicky! You all have me blushing!!!