Sunday, July 4, 2010

"There's No Mystery Left"

While drenched in sensuality, our society is nevertheless experiencing the death of romance. Why do so many Americans need pills in order to do what should come naturally? Camille Paglia explores the question, saying:
The implication is that a new pill, despite its unforeseen side effects, is necessary to cure the sexual malaise that appears to have sunk over the country. But to what extent do these complaints about sexual apathy reflect a medical reality, and how much do they actually emanate from the anxious, overachieving, white upper middle class?

....In the discreet white-collar realm, men and women are interchangeable, doing the same, mind-based work. Physicality is suppressed; voices are lowered and gestures curtailed in sanitized office space. Men must neuter themselves, while ambitious women postpone procreation. Androgyny is bewitching in art, but in real life it can lead to stagnation and boredom, which no pill can cure.

Meanwhile, family life has put middle-class men in a bind; they are simply cogs in a domestic machine commanded by women. Contemporary moms have become virtuoso super-managers of a complex operation focused on the care and transport of children. But it’s not so easy to snap over from Apollonian control to Dionysian delirium.

Nor are husbands offering much stimulation in the male display department: visually, American men remain perpetual boys, as shown by the bulky T-shirts, loose shorts and sneakers they wear from preschool through midlife. The sexes, which used to occupy intriguingly separate worlds, are suffering from over-familiarity, a curse of the mundane. There’s no mystery left.


The North Coast said...

I believe the use of Viagra and other potency aids is pretty well limited to men well over the age of 60. I have never heard of a younger man needing it or using it, except men who have had drug and alcohol problems.

The older guys are fighting the loss of their youth and vigor, and I sympathize. A man usually loses it around 65-70, and if this stuff helps him, then I'm all for it- provided it has no side effects that do him harm and shorten his life.

Some things are just irrepressible, and romance is one of them. A job is only a job, and after work, you're yourself again. I don't believe the mystery is gone, and I do believe that romance is alive and well.

elena maria vidal said...

I think the pill Camille is talking about is one made for women. While I don't agree with everything in the article, I think she made some interesting points.

Julygirl said...

Many have trouble coming to terms with (whatever, you name it). It boils down to an ongoing struggle between our human nature, societal trends, relationship pressures, genetics; vs conformity to God's will. What and where is the line between doing something about 'it', and coming to terms with 'it'.

Dymphna said...

I just heard on the news that men who use ED pills get venereal diseases at a higher rate than non users. Either a lot of old fools are stepping out on their wives or a lot of younger men are using the pills too.