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I always dread being an "ugly American" when traveling abroad and so like to read up on the customs of other countries. Sometimes we take for granted that just because we Americans do things a certain way everyone else does so, too, and of course that is not the case. Every foreign traveler should remember that you are an ambassador of your country. I was delighted to find a page about New Zealand Etiquette Tips which hopefully is accurate.
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I'm no expert on Kiwi etiquette, Elena, but I do have one useful tip.
In New Zealand, "tea" means "dinner." So if someone invites you to his home for tea, he doesn't mean scones! (One of my professors once told my class that when she was abroad, she was asked to tea by a friend and "prepared" by not having any lunch beforehand. By the time she figured out the truth, it took all of her self-control not to scarf down the entire plate of little cakes!)
Yes, I understand that at a NZ tea you're as likely to get wine to drink as actual tea.
But the etiquette tips really were funny! "Don't confuse New Zealanders with Australians." Hmmm . . .
There's a very funny show (not for children!) on HBO called Flight of the Conchords, about a two-man band from New Zealand trying to make it in New York (we don't get cable, but I try to see it whenever I'm staying in a hotel). The recurring punchline is that the Kiwis are hopelessly sincere and naive, which makes the etiquette tip about not making promises you can't keep seem especially apt. A good friend of mine from NZ told me that the show, which is very popular in America, didn't make it in NZ because people didn't find it funny; too close to the true national character. Also, my understanding is that most Kiwis are very, very witty and funny, so the Conchords fell flat in comparison to nature.
New Zealand is a lovely country to visit, and we'll look forward to your impressions.
Probably one example of good etiquette an American can employ when traveling to any country is to be a good sport when someone makes a teasing remark about the US, which will invariably happen. Most of the time it's meant in fun. It can reflect well on us not to be too overly sensitive.
The etiquette guide seems quite accurate to this New Zealander. But we're pretty easy going (as long as you don't confuse us with Australia or the Australians - lol).
Have a safe journey and watch out for the harbour and islands of the gulf as you come in to land at Auckland - it can be quite spectacular on a good day. Have a wonderful time in NZ. And do try some of our fantastic wine!
Howver the comment someone made about FOTC is wrong - it was not taken up in NZ immediately because some TV bigwigs were conservative in their decision making - many Kiwis do find the series immensely funny, and followed the boys careers before they made this serious. They did a fundraising concert for Jemaine's old school tonight in Masterton, Wairarapa, and all 2000 tickets were sold out in 90 mins which isn't bad for a rural centre. The series is shown here now and watched avidly in this house :)
The tea / dinner thing is a bit dated - we have always said dinner (and I'm middle aged) - they get used a bit interchangeably so context is everything and if in doubt ask :)
The bit about not mixing up Kiwis and Ockers is pretty important. We are like siblings and will fight to the death in support of each other (see ANZAC tradition) but there is a lot of niggling along the way.
I've been reading your blog for about a month but somehow missed your post about when you are coming down under (or maybe I have yet to find it as I am doing a catchup today :) ). Enjoy your visit :)
PS: I have _never_had tea with a meal as described in that etiquette page. I think that is a confusion with the tea / dinner thing mentioned in your comments *chuckle*
Thank you, April, I will be watching from the plane. Hopefully it will be a lovely morning! Come to the convention, if you can!
EnnaVic, I am grateful for the information! These are things which only a native Kiwi could know for certain! I'll be giving a couple talks about my books at the Eucharistic convention in Auckland on April 18 and 19. Stop by if you are able!
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I'm no expert on Kiwi etiquette, Elena, but I do have one useful tip.
In New Zealand, "tea" means "dinner." So if someone invites you to his home for tea, he doesn't mean scones! (One of my professors once told my class that when she was abroad, she was asked to tea by a friend and "prepared" by not having any lunch beforehand. By the time she figured out the truth, it took all of her self-control not to scarf down the entire plate of little cakes!)
Interesting! I think the Irish do that, too! Thank you!
Yes, I understand that at a NZ tea you're as likely to get wine to drink as actual tea.
But the etiquette tips really were funny! "Don't confuse New Zealanders with Australians." Hmmm . . .
There's a very funny show (not for children!) on HBO called Flight of the Conchords, about a two-man band from New Zealand trying to make it in New York (we don't get cable, but I try to see it whenever I'm staying in a hotel). The recurring punchline is that the Kiwis are hopelessly sincere and naive, which makes the etiquette tip about not making promises you can't keep seem especially apt. A good friend of mine from NZ told me that the show, which is very popular in America, didn't make it in NZ because people didn't find it funny; too close to the true national character. Also, my understanding is that most Kiwis are very, very witty and funny, so the Conchords fell flat in comparison to nature.
Have a wonderful and safe trip!
Yes, I am looking forward to an enjoyable time.
New Zealand is a lovely country to visit, and we'll look forward to your impressions.
Probably one example of good etiquette an American can employ when traveling to any country is to be a good sport when someone makes a teasing remark about the US, which will invariably happen. Most of the time it's meant in fun. It can reflect well on us not to be too overly sensitive.
Thanks, Jacqueline!
Hello from Auckland, Elena! (my home town)
The etiquette guide seems quite accurate to this New Zealander. But we're pretty easy going (as long as you don't confuse us with Australia or the Australians - lol).
Have a safe journey and watch out for the harbour and islands of the gulf as you come in to land at Auckland - it can be quite spectacular on a good day. Have a wonderful time in NZ. And do try some of our fantastic wine!
The tips are a bit serious but none are wrong.
Howver the comment someone made about FOTC is wrong - it was not taken up in NZ immediately because some TV bigwigs were conservative in their decision making - many Kiwis do find the series immensely funny, and followed the boys careers before they made this serious. They did a fundraising concert for Jemaine's old school tonight in Masterton, Wairarapa, and all 2000 tickets were sold out in 90 mins which isn't bad for a rural centre. The series is shown here now and watched avidly in this house :)
The tea / dinner thing is a bit dated - we have always said dinner (and I'm middle aged) - they get used a bit interchangeably so context is everything and if in doubt ask :)
The bit about not mixing up Kiwis and Ockers is pretty important. We are like siblings and will fight to the death in support of each other (see ANZAC tradition) but there is a lot of niggling along the way.
I've been reading your blog for about a month but somehow missed your post about when you are coming down under (or maybe I have yet to find it as I am doing a catchup today :) ). Enjoy your visit :)
PS: I have _never_had tea with a meal as described in that etiquette page. I think that is a confusion with the tea / dinner thing mentioned in your comments *chuckle*
Thank you, April, I will be watching from the plane. Hopefully it will be a lovely morning! Come to the convention, if you can!
EnnaVic, I am grateful for the information! These are things which only a native Kiwi could know for certain! I'll be giving a couple talks about my books at the Eucharistic convention in Auckland on April 18 and 19. Stop by if you are able!
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