I attended baptism classes when I was expecting but I went to a parish where they did not place insurmountable difficulties. From
Catholic Working Mother:
Some of the obstacles to baptism I’ve heard about from other Catholic
mom friends are patently ridiculous. Some parishes require a class (or
two, three, or even more!) that can only be taken after the
child has been born, and only after he or she has received his or her
birth certificate (which can take several weeks or sometimes several
months after birth), and require both parents to attend, and don’t offer
childcare for older siblings. Some even stipulate that you can’t bring
your newborn child!
Tell me, how can the Church claim to support large families if they
require large families to shell out money just to attend a parish
baptism class? Do you think it’s easy for a Catholic family with six
kids to (a) find a babysitter in the first place and/or (b) afford a
babysitter? Most large Catholic families, including my own, can’t afford
a babysitter for the desperately-needed occasional date night, let
alone a required baptism class at a parish!
And speaking of that, why do parishes require a new baptism class for
each child or make it so the classes “expire” after a set amount of
time (usually three years)? Do you really think that a Catholic family
who has already baptized 4-5 kids has suddenly forgotten what baptism is
and why it’s important? If we’re having 4-5 kids in today’s day and
age, chances are we are intimately familiar with Church teaching and
doctrine. Heck, by kid #5 I think I could have TAUGHT the baptism class.
And it’s not even large families. Do you really expect a brand-new
mother who is exclusively breastfeeding to leave her tiny child alone
for several hours, likely for the first time? You have new parents who
are constantly exhausted, stressed out, anxious about a million
different things, and you tell them: “Oh, by the way, you have to attend
this class at your parish [or sometimes multiple classes] before we can
even set a date for the baptism. We’re going to make it at the most
inconvenient time possible for the parent who is working, and you’ll
need to find a babysitter to care for your tiny, vulnerable newborn. Oh,
you breastfeed exclusively? Well, you’ll have to figure that out,
because we can’t possibly have an infant at a class where we’re discussing infant baptism.”
No. You don’t do that to families. You don’t target them when they’re
already in one of the most chaotic, tiring, stressful periods of their
lives and do what you can to make it even WORSE. That isn’t going to
bring people into the Church, or evangelize them in any way. That is
only going to push already lukewarm Catholics out of the door and send
them down the street to the local happy-clappy Protestant church where
all they need to do is sign up to get their kid baptized.
We as Catholics need to meet people and parents where they are. It’s
2018 and we can do better. Online classes (with a short quiz afterwards
to ensure information was received and retained). Skype classes. Sending
a deacon or a catechist or even the priest to the parishioners’ home to
do the class. If a class at the parish is needed, allow siblings —
including the new baby! — to attend along with their parents, and don’t
have the class in late evening when toddlers will be tired and cranky.
Feed them so they don’t have to cook that night, or organize a potluck.
And allow parents to attend this class BEFORE the baby’s birth,
especially if they are first-time parents! (Read more.)
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