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Opposites attract, right? While that may be true in magnetics, when
it comes to the finer points of friendship, mixing introverts and
not-so-introverts can be harder than it looks.
This is
especially true for extroverts looking to be there for an introvert
friend. If you’re of the extroverted variety, a simple “how was your
day?” might launch a 30-minute blow-by-blow of insanity. Your
introverted friend, however, may be more inclined to just say, “good.”
We may think that they don’t have much to say since we gave them a
chance, but really, introverts need to be drawn out by further probing
and gentle encouragement.
Your extroverted ways don’t mean you’re incapable of having good introvert friends. Jennifer B. Kahnweiler Ph.D., author of Quiet Influence: The Introvert’s Guide to Making a Difference, explains that, contrary to popular belief, “Extroverts can
be incredible listeners, because they draw people out by their
open-ended questions and paraphrasing. Extroverts are able to develop
rapport with others and know how to make people comfortable.”
So really, you’re a natural! But you do need a different
strategy than “treat others as you want to be treated.” Introverts
require a different script. So if you’re grabbing your favorite
introverted friend for drinks tonight and are hoping to get her out of
her shell, here are six tips to help you do just that. (Read more.)
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