This new federal study indicates that these cases are simply the tip of the abuse iceberg in American life. According to the report, children living with their mother and her boyfriend are about 11 times more likely to be sexually, physically, or emotionally abused than children living with their married biological parents. Likewise, children living with their mother and her boyfriend are six times more likely to be physically, emotionally, or educationally neglected than children living with their married biological parents. In other words, one of the most dangerous places for a child in America to find himself in is a home that includes an unrelated male boyfriend—especially when that boyfriend is left to care for a child by himself.Share
But children living with their own father and mother do not fare much better if their parents are only cohabiting. The federal study of child abuse found that children living with their cohabiting parents are more than four times more likely to be sexually, physically, or emotionally abused than their peers living in a home headed by their married parents. And they are three times more likely to be physically, emotionally, or educationally neglected than children living with their married biological parents. In other words, a child is not much safer when she is living in a home with her parents if her parents’ relationship does not enjoy the legal, social, and moral status and guidance that marriage confers on relationships. (Read entire article.)
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Just read your daily newspaper. How many times during one year is one likely to read about an abuse case....too often! Sad and scary.
Agree with this post.
Step-parents are much more likely to be bad news for your children, even though there are wonderful exceptions, of course. Nobody is ever going to love a child as much as his biological parents and most step-parents consider your kid to be a burden, something they put up with to be with you. While there are great stepparents, you are without doubt putting your children at risk with most of them, and this is something you need to consider before following the dictates of your 'heart'.
Couples who have a baby while cohabitating are much less likely to have planned to have a baby or desired one, and are not as committed to each other, either.
When a woman has a child, she becomes a mother before anything, and even husbands become secondary. A woman should have a plan for how she would support herself and her children without assistance should she lose her husband for some reason- either by being widowed and penniless (men don't always leave an insurance policy), or the husband is someone you MUST divorce because he is a danger to your kids. A contingency plan is necessary so that you don't have to get married again just to put a roof over your head.
And when you select a mate, look for someone who has the same goals and values as you, and who is willing to put the kids first. You should never have to choose between your mate and your kids- if you have kids, they should be the first priority for both of you.
All too often I read in the local paper about child abuse cases, or worse, the deaths of small children and babies. The perpetrator, more often than not, is the mother's boyfriend. I can't believe that any mother who loved her children would put her desires above their safety. It's just incredibly sad.
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