Saturday, January 26, 2008

Opening Doors

Should gentlemen still open doors for ladies? There is a lively discussion on Modestly Yours. Share

8 comments:

julygirl said...

Did things start going downhill when women stopped expecting men to be gentlemen?

elena maria vidal said...

I think so.

Alexandra said...

Men still open doors for ladies down here in SE Va. I expect it, or at least an offer.

elena maria vidal said...

Most of them do here in central PA, too.

elisa said...

I've had guys hold the door open for me whether I know them or not. If I'm walking a blind patron to the door at the library, I let him or her go first and follow after.

elena maria vidal said...

Glad you mentioned that, Elisa. It is not only a question of men opening the door for women, but older people should always have the door held open for them by a younger person of either gender, as well as any person incapacitated in any way. It goes without saying that an expectant mother should always have doors held open for her, by whomever.

Georgette said...

So true, Elena. and for the most part, most places in the United States, to my experience, anyway, do practice this etiquette EXCEPT when it comes to pregnant women in the Washington DC area --I had the misfortune of living there when I was pregnant with our daughter, and I remember slipping and falling loading my grocery bags when I was well over 9 months pregnant--and people looked on, but not a single one helped. And I am short, so I showed my pregnancy from early on, and throughout the pregnancy, I was never treated with any sort of respect. I used to go out of my way to help other expectant moms, but no one else ever seemed to. Just horrible there.

I also experienced --and witnessed others who experienced--much rudeness in the DC area towards women with small children, or moms with a lot of children in tow. I really felt the heaviness of the Culture of Death (anti-Life, anti-child) when we lived there.

But not so, I should add, in Raleigh, NC. There, grandmas seemed to come out of the woodword to "oo and ah" over the little ones walking about with their moms in malls, parks, or any public places!!

elena maria vidal said...

Yes, Georgette, the sight of a pregnant woman often seems to elicit either very positive or very negative reactions. I have found (when expecting) that some of the most negative behaviors came from other women, especially young women. Men, on the other hand, I usually found to be very helpful, at least the men around here.