Thursday, February 13, 2014

Marriage for Millenials

From Forbes:
Putting off marriage leaves more time for higher education and for taking high ROI career risks – both long-term income boosters –  that might not be possible if you’re worried about saving up for a down payment or budgeting to start a family. Instead of viewing marriage as a stepping stone to greater economic stability, it seems as if Millennials see economic stability as a prerequisite for marriage. And while most Millennials still aspire to take trip down the aisle, they aren’t putting much stock in it as an indicator of having a successful life. A scant 30% claim that a successful marriage is an important achievement for them, well behind priorities such as having a high-earning career or being a good parent. (Read more.)

1 comment:

The North Coast said...

I absolutely believe in attaining economic stability before you marry, possibly because I grew up in a home where the parents were overwhelmed by the financial burden of supporting a family at a very young age, before they could get a decent financial footing. We never quite caught up, and their marriage floundered very early on, ending in desertion by my father. You can't make someone stay who is determined to leave.

And you should be married, HAPPILY married, as well, before you have children. Trust me, if your marriage is shaky, having children will not repair it. Instead, you will run a very high risk of becoming a single mother with an ex-husband who you have to play bill collector with, to get him to pay minimal support. And men who cannot support their families tend to leave them.

Search for a man whose values vibe with yours and with whom you can form a really trusting, solid friendship, which is a better basis for lasting love than a stilted dating relationship where the two of you are always on your "courtship" behavior. You want to see how your prospective mate is when conditions are less than ideal.