Thursday, February 4, 2010

The Pregnancy Pact

Talking to our children. To quote Heidi's review:

What I liked about this movie is that it reminds families of the importance of talking — really talking — with their teens, long before the proverbial crap hits the fan. Most parents I know hold themselves (and their children) to high moral standards. In truth, we often expect our children’s moral boundaries to exceed what we observed at their age because NOW we see the dangers of youthful impulses. And yet, wishing doesn’t make those impulses go away. Our kids need to know how to cope with those impulses in a real, adult way — with a full appreciation of how short-term actions can have long-term consequences.

Our job as parents is to help our kids form long-term plans for their future, and to understand how their present actions can help or dash those plans. Our daughters and sons, both. They need to understand how our own dreams were helped or hindered because of the choices we made early in life.

Our daughters need to understand the difference between infatuation (based on strong feelings that pass with time) and true love (based on a lifetime of sacrifice) — in order to understand WHY sex is a gift that is best expressed within marriage. They must understand that the gift of sex, misused, makes it difficult or impossible to think clearly about whether the young man they are dating is the best choice for a lifetime partner.


Julygirl said...

It certainly explores the forcefulness and power of 'Peer Pressure' beyond what we in the past experienced with our teens. Other than drinking and driving, the impact of this on the life of a young woman and her family (and the child) is immeasurable.

Bearded Lady said...

Oh i have to see this movie. This happened in the town next to us. I wonder how factual the movie is?

elena maria vidal said...

Bearded Lady, I wonder as well. They probably had to fictionalize a good bit of it since those involved in the actual incident are still minors.